When dreams fall apart - Get up and fight ! You're Alive!

Failure is a part of life. I know this line sounds disturbing and you resent it as much as I do but I won't erase back these words. We need to accept it, learn it for future reference and love it so much that it chokes.

Nobody likes to fail at things. Whether it’s an exam or something like a bet with a kid. You want to nail it the best way. I'm sure many of us even day dream about the impossible looking success stories. Who doesn't. It's what keeps us moving. It's what keeps us motivated and go on in this cruel unpredictable world.  Now imagine, all your motivation was taken away by one swift strike of failure. The positivity that is naturally instilled in us simply disappears, it evaporates out of your body. You're an educated person , young maybe or maybe not but quite the person who had the absolute certainty at some point in his/her life that yeaaah! I would become somebody or do something big in life. You believed it so much that even your family began to expect something big out of you. Like you're destined to do great things. So you grow up fast, plan your life well , educate yourself well , do everything upto Par but then nonsense happens. 

You're not there yet. In fact as every dawn approaches, you're quite sure you're a big failure in both the worlds. And you're going to die just like that. An ordinary person. 

How do you move on well with it then? Would it not choke you each day each night ? I find myself very disturbed when my life is imbalanced at any point and I can't stop being sad inside. The result? That sadness begins to dull me more. Because it is based on factual details. That I have failed-- when I least expected or wished it. 

Enough of this drama! I say. It's time to make a punching bag out of sorrows and hit it hard. Just smash it with your might.

You're Alive!

Say you’re alive! You're not dead. Lord Almighty is watching over you.  Strive well. Fight! Fight with the negativity like hell and never stop.

The Man who can't get married !

Money Money Money! Who doesn't want it? I know I do. But I don't want it in a way to abuse it. I want it to buy the things that make my life easy. Most importantly, I want it to get married. And that's the trouble.

:(

I'm a young lad you see. Broke. Parents told me to earn if I want to get married. But Here I am, still studying. I don't like the way things turn out I mean, 

1. you can't like a girl, 
2. you can't fall in love 

And if you do, then oh man. you're dead. You can't get married young because you don't have stable income. I'm so jealous of all those youngsters who get married young and their family is the sponsor party. Or those Arab kids who pay their expenses from Government's pocket on being married. Wow. why don't we have those things in Pakistan?

I mean is it really necessary to get married at 30, 40 or 50????

Ugggh it's driving me insane. Why? Because it has become the biggest issue of our society. Youth is getting spoiled. Doing sins because their parents can't get them married. So they let them do sins.

That's not Islam.

So here's my open letter to the parents. (Even though I know they can't access it)

Dear Parents,My Pa and Ma

I'm high. Yes. I'm not shitting you. That's the way things are, you have to accept the fact that I have grown up and I have hormones, unlimited supply now. My religion isn't shy not to address this issue. It did give us a solution and that is to get married but You guys are not letting it happen. Why? Oh why must you tell me to control myself when you know I am created weak? Do I look like a superman here? Or a spiderman who has no signs of passion on his boring face and funny outfit? Please consider my feelings, mi-lords. I can't bear to watch my friends or cousins getting married while I have to suffice with the concept of Hooras waiting for me in the next world. :( All the girls I like end up calling me bro. All the future babies I imagine in head end up being bored. Let them have a chance of becoming real? 

Plus I can't earn just yet, because you made me pursue this big degree. So as good parents, who understand my situation, and respect my heart, and also most importantly believe in religion, please sponsor my wedding

-__- or I would soon go mad or develop some serious health problem as I can't fast 365 days a year.

So hear me , my biological parents! And let me have the chance to complete my deen. That's life above zero. A life where I am at mental and physical peace. 

Get me married, and I'll make sure you get to play with a lot of grandchildren.(after few years I mean, when I am earning on my own) 

Your lovely son (shehzada)

Peace out! 

Why do you blog ?

Different people have different reasons for blogging. And as their reasons vary, so do their levels of love for the blog.
We love blogging for two main reasons.
1- Its a great therapy to let out our emotions on here which we otherwise cant mouth.
2- Because we love inspiring and socialising in a healthy way.
Other than these two reasons , our team of Khans can give you more good points, too. But lets skip that and jump to the importance of this question today.
Why do you blog? And why do you think people should read you ?
Blogging is a great way to not just give voice to your ideas but, it also transforms you as well as your readers.
Consider the blogging journey of Zen. Zen Habits is the widely read blog at the internet , it even has a wiki page. Now how's that! Its quite cool. Right?
The impact a  good blog can have on its readers lives is huge and massive. It can inspire them. Motivate them and do wonders. We believe, that if you have given anyone , even a single smile through your blog, you have succeeded.
As for the blogger, if he/she has got better at any skill or have matured in thinking through blogging, thats a transformation.
Learning by blogging is a great experience.  We hope you have a great experience as well.
Share with us, your purpose for blogging and your story. How much did you grow with your blog or helped anyone through it ? :)

The Manufacturer Knows well

A manufacturer knows what is best for his product.In same way Allah has created us and he knows what is best for us.We all have heard "everything happens for a good reason" but when some misfortune strikes us we forget it,and start complaining, why me?And the reason for this is we dont have the wisdom to see our good through it but Allah knows what is best for us.
 "But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not." 2:216 
Sometimes we want a something ,we pray for it,But we dont get it.So we start complaining.But we donot see the love of Allah,The reason he is not giving us that thing is he knows our fate,he knows if some one is asking for a bike and if he gives him then he might get into an accident,or some one will steal it from him and he will lost his cool and kill himself.So it is the mercy of Allah that he is not giving us something even though we are supplicating for it.And if our prayer is not getting accept its either two reasons,may be Allah is sad from us or may be the thing we are wanting not good for us.So if you lose your faith and start to complain Allah doesnot hear you and doesnt give you what you ask for,then Start thanking him for the things for which you didnt ask him for.He has given us eyes,did we ask for it?he gave us health, did we ask for it ? and the list goes on.
Sometimes in life we go through hardships,We are given grieves upon grieves.But do you know grieve is a also a mercy ? sometimes we are given a grieve in life to forget the Previous grieve.He made us and he know how human functions,he knows our sciology better than the therapist.

That Light

There's light everywhere, in every nerve every vein. Inside you.
See it.
Sense.
Believe it.
Be blessed.

Just a thought.

God is Love-ing :)

One of the Names of God is Al-Wadood,meaning "The Loving ".Christians people say God is Love. and yes he is,but here in Islam,it is making it Continuous.and by making it a Continuous tense "Allah is Love-ing". it is telling Allah doesn't love you once or twice or several times and then hates you.Now .He will always Love you.Now Question is How does Allah Love us ?

1. Forgiving.
 if you make a statement to some one "I Love You" you just dont say it "Hey i just met you and im in Love with you" you first prove your self, do something for your Love. And the most difficult thing to do is "Forgive".If you love someone and that some one makes a mistake,what do you do ? you forgive.In same way Allah is not just making a claim he is Loving,he 1st says "Im the Forgiving one " .

"And He is the Forgiving, the Loving" (Quran, 85:14).

So Allah tells 1st he forgives,and it is most difficult to forgive and then after forgiving ,loving right after it.And even forgiving has a limit.If some one comes and breaks your window for no reason you may find it hard but you will think ok i forgive,but what will you do if that person breaks your window again ? will you still forgive this person and love him the same? i don't think so i have to say the two letter word here.But Allah is the most forgiving.and the bet to be forgiven by him is simple ,seek Repentance( make a Tauba). and the deal here is amazing.If you seek forgiveness,not will he forgive your sins,but will turn your bad deeds into Good deeds.Such a bonus offer till your death.

God loves us more than the love of 70 moms.And thats the reason a scholar of islam once said" i rather have God as my judge than my parents".


2.Grieve is a blessing.
 You know the grieve and suffering we face is also a sign of his love ? To explain this ,lets take the example of the Devil,he is made from Fire and will be put in fire as a punishment. A bigger fire can kill the lighter fire. As a pep talk during workout they say "Kill the pain with the pain " In same way a grieve can kill the grieve.Allah made us and he knew how our grieves can be killed.

"So Allah repaid you with distress upon distress so you would not grieve for that which had escaped you"3:153(a verse about battle of uhud,where Companions were given the greater distress,the rumors of Martyr of Prophet Mohammad S.A.W )

3.Bounties of Allah 

It is his Love that right now I am writing this post and you are reading it.and say thanks to him for blessing of eyes through which you can see and read.If we love some one ,he give them gifts,and if that person doesn't say you thanks for the gift,will you still buy gifts?Imagine how much you are blessed with.you will be like im blessed ? what are you kidding? I do not have iphone,i do not have a swimming pool,and my mother is in hospital,and blah blah ! but imagine what if the next day you wake up with the only things for which thanked God.And then we will start counting,Thank God for eye sight,for tongue,for ears,for health,for Mom and Dad,for letting me breath,and your day will be gone just by thanking Allah but the list of his gifts will not end and you will forget to say thank for somethings,and next day you will not be given those,and it will go on like this.So Lets thanks Allah for not taking away those things from us for which we never thanked him for and thank Allah more for giving us those things which we thanked for , at some point.

Thank You Allah for everything. :)

Team "Me and Nana "

We call our maternal Grandfather "Nana" and my Nana has some great Qualities.He is very old,i wont tell you age,But he has a sea of knowledge Masha Allah.He has knowledge about Chemistry,Physics,Biology,Economics,Arabic,English,Farsi,Urdu,Punjabi,Maths and list goes on and on.When he is in mood,he will share his knowledge with you.Day before yesterday when i visited him.He started talking on "Tauheed (to believe,there is no God but Allah) " and then he was telling me things and i was noting them down in my cell phone.And he told me a Punjabi Poem about God.

      Jay Rab Milda

Jey Rab Milda Nahata Tohteya

Milda Machiyan Daddowan

(If God was found by doing ablution/Bath,

Fishes and Frogs would be Saints)

Jey Rab Milda Namazan Parhiya

Milda Molviyan,Chotiyan Motiyan khotiyan

(If God was to find by those who offer salat,

The imam of Masjid,fake Saints would have him)

Bhulleya Rab unha nu milda

Jenna di nijtaan Sachiyan

(Bhulleh Shah,Only those Find God/Allah

who are true in heart )

Note:Its a punjabi Poem by Baba Bulleh shah,im not good at punjabi,my Nana spoke every verse of it thrice to me and then translated it.So special thanks to Team "Me and Nana"